WOMEN WORKING LIFE phenomenal...
Now, the issue may be whether a woman works are sensitive issues. Do not believe? Let's just take this topic into a forum and tell them that women should stay home with children. No need to wait too long, insistent reply will attack you. You will be accused menzalimi women, are biased against them, and many other. I do not prohibit women from work. However there are certain circumstances that are not fulfilled by the women of today when they want to work outside the home. This has lead to negative impressions of women to work outside the home. So before you attack me, please read my writings with a head cold. Agree?
Formerly western countries require women workers to replace the man who many died in the first and second world wars. In addition, due to the rapid industrial revolution where women workers are cheap and easily governed able to provide multiple economic benefits. What about Muslims? What do women want to see the destruction of morals such as those in western countries?
Why do women want to work?
In general, the reason women out to work is because of money. These women usually come from poor families. If you're married her husband may be very poor and could only work as a pick up trash, selling meatball, or so Coolie. In fact they have lots of children like habits of the poor. Her husband would work in pabrikpun rather difficult, because the factory owners often prefer women because it is easy and inexpensive ruled his salary. There is no other way except for his wife to work, in order to increase revenue.
The financial conditions also be the reason for the women who come from poor families who have much younger brothers and sisters. Because he's the only one who can make money (his parents are old and sick), then inevitably he must work to support his younger siblings. Women from these groups living in many poor countries, such as Indonesia and the amount could reach millions.
When women from the first group was forced to work to help her husband or his family, the woman who comes from the second group worked not for money. They worked for a few reasons below:
1. Improve the comfort of living. Actually her husband is able to provide sufficient livelihood like to rent a house or even buy a modest home, have a motorcycle or a used car is simple, to enroll their children in government schools, etc.. But because it wanted a higher quality of life, the work of the wife. They dreamed of buying a bigger house, new cars, send their children in private, and roads abroad.
2. Urging parents. His parents have issued a lot of money to send their daughters. And no other of happiness for people with seeing their children successfully gain employment. It also can raise the prestige of parents in front of friends and siblings. Also if the child did not work it will be a waste of money spent and earned a degree.
3. Government debt. Getting a scholarship is a sustenance. Parents are to be relieved not need to pay tuition is very expensive. But do not be happy first, there are hidden costs to be borne by the grantee when it has graduated from college that is bound by employment contracts with the government. If for example one year to learn S1 (degree) two-year contract, so if four years of study, should work with the government for eight years. If it is okay to want to terminate the contract. But I have to pay back all the scholarships earned.
4. Eliminate dependence (independent) on the husband. Women of this group are proud to be able to find their own money and have a high confidence. They work for fear that at any time abandoned or divorced by her husband's death. According to Islam for such cases the woman does not need to work, but their parents will suffer or his heirs if his parents had died. What about children? If the father is still alive, then the obligation of the father to finance his children, even when divorced from his wife. If the father is deceased, then the responsibility of the heirs who will finance her children.
But because Islam has been left far at this point, the completion of the above mostly unknown or ignored by the crowd. Many of the case after a divorce with his new wife's husband vanished without regard to their living for their children. As a result, the wife must work hard to make a living themselves and their children.
There is also a late marriage or not marry at all, so as not to depend on men. So many women in rich countries are too late to get married so he could collect the money that many used for a stable life before marriage.
5. Raise the social identity. This only applies to women who work in either government or private office. People will see it with a sense of awe. Especially if the woman holds an important position in the workplace. Women from these groups will be desperately competing to pursue a career with fellow man. They are proud if he could beat the men in that competition. They then suggest programs or seminars for invited other women to follow their traces. Her parents, her brothers and her friends feel proud with all his success. When a woman's consciousness arises when to stop working, get immediate opposition from those who increased their social status because of the success of these women.
6. Urging the public. If at any place mostly women working outside the home, the woman who only keep children at home will be despised by society. The question is always asked is "Where do you work?", "Why did you wife does not work, he's no higher education?". This eventually makes the woman sitting at home also want to work, because it does not hold with such a low opinion.
Negative impression of Working Women
1. Robs the work of male
The bustle in women taking jobs that a lot of men unemployed. Especially if the woman falls in civil service professions. As a result a lot of male owners of high school diploma and bachelor's degrees who are unemployed so that they meet the coffee shop and knocked on the door of the offices to look for work. A variety of problems began to arise from this side of life.
Around the year 2006, I once saw a TV program in Australia. This program shows that a husband who was sitting at home with wife and kids working in the office has become a reality. The husband casually says that he is not ashamed to stay at home while his wife works outside. At first the husband who works and stops working for any reason. Finding another job is not easy as thought. Finally after a long time family economics are covered by the wife. This is certainly not desirable in Islam. In Islam suamilah who make a living. Just because a lot of work has been taken over by women, men were forced to sit at home because of lack of work.
2. Increases the risk of disease
Heart disease is mostly found in men, now began to happen to women too. This is because women have done many jobs usually done by men.
3. Rising crime
Also women who work are also now sympathize and entered the problems faced by men. One result is meingkatnya criminality among women is due to excess unemployment among educated women.
A doctor has said the cause of the crisis in American families and the number of crime in society is because a wife has left home, so bertambahlah damage to the family. Therefore bertambahlah rendahlah damage to society and their morals.
The women who work outside the home also tend to cause slander to the menfolk. They will wear clothes that will increase male lust, cursing scent that wafted up to 10 meters, talking to a spoiled, etc.. Everything is capable of undermining the faith of men. With the existence of women who work in offices or factories will increase the diversion husband and wife. Is not this would cause tossing household?
4. Losing her femininity
Women who work on public transport, in mining, in which heavy industry, even in part paving roads and cleaning, they have lost their femininity. The women who worked in the office was getting more and more distant relationship with fatigue kekeluargaannya exceptional both at home and outside the home.
5. Not able to serve her husband and child with perfect
Husband who allowed his wife to work also enjoyed the salary of the wife to not have the right to for example:
• Telling his wife always smiled when he met him. How might tell his wife smiled, which was satisfied with kelelehaan and stress obtained in the workplace.
• Place the husband complained of problems and get support. Do diharaplah, because his wife had also complained to the myriad of problems for her husband.
• Ask for ideas from untuuk wife's husband who was working a dead end in problems. -Ama wives equally in the affairs of a dead end job.
• Minding the body's husband. As usual husband is happiest when massaged by his wife.
• Telling her hush the crying children.
• Telling his wife washing dishes, clothes, sweep the house, etc.. In this case, the husband and wife should share the burden with in terms of taking care of the house. Very unfair to force a wife to a place to make money and at the same time asking his own wife to take care of all affairs of the house.
• And many other examples which are not likely to be mentioned.
6. Forced to pay a maid / nanny
For poor families who can not afford to pay their nanny had to ask his parents or his siblings to care for and maintain their children. As for who has the money, they can afford to pay the maid and nanny. Expect an attendant to manage at home and keep their children at the same time is a wrong action and risk. It's cheaper if an attendant is able to do both tasks at once. But the aide of a human being too. He could be exhausted in taking care of the house, so when the child masters mangsuh luggage rage continues. Sometimes beaten, yet employers are not looking. In addition most poorly educated servants. They do not know how to educate children well. If both parents are not quick with these circumstances, the child will follow intelensia level helpers.
As a way out, they can pay a nanny anymore, or delivering their children to a care institution. Care institutions (nurseries) is also no guarantee that children get enough love. Many children who must be taken by the nanny-nanny. Indeed the excess of the child is able to socialize premises many friends.
If you can not afford both, compelled to ask his parents to perform tasks to keep house and raising children. Here the conflict can happen in education. Her parents wants their children educated with their methods, while the grandparents of the child to use other means. This can cause conflict. Also whether the heart to tell parents caring for our children? Whereas in old age they should enjoy the fruits of their labors during youth.
7. Husband to wife's income depends on
At first the shy boy receives his wife's salary. But long-longtime conveniences. As a result, the husband does not want to give his salary to his wife for home affairs tungga. Husband thinks his wife's salary was enough for the affairs of the kitchen. Sometimes the husband also borrowed money from his wife, but pretended to forget to return it. If you arrive at a severe stage, the husband does not work anymore and relies on his wife's salary. It's all been in conflict with Islamic teachings. In Islam, the husband who gives sustenance, not wives. Wives should not be forced to directly or indirectly to finance the household. Do not think this case little is happening. Lots going on, just have a habit for mixing stirring between husband and wife's property.
8. Vehicles for working wives
This is only true for wives who work in offices. For transportation, could not help a car to be purchased again. This means additional fuel costs and maintenance of vehicles. If the wife's salary only modest, the results obtained by each bulanpun not too much. Not to mention should be cut to pay the cost of supplies and child care.
Even choosing vehicles to transport the general appear-resiku other risks. As doubts about push on the bus, which of course is no longer considering the boundaries of Islam. Also a sense of security to be lost, because in most of the time the wife had to go alone and probably could return tonight.
9. Can not breastfeed the child with the perfect
What is the difference drank milk straight from his mother by drinking breast milk of mothers who put in a bottle. Both are capable of providing the same nutrient source because it comes from the mother rather than formula milk. The difference is the bond obtained by the child. If breast feeding from her mother, the baby will have a 80% bond is stronger than that given through the bottle and more menyintai mother. Direct feeding from the breast of a mother, just may be done by mothers who are not working.
In addition to bond issues, the cost also determines when a blackmailer wants to buy milk. Mothers who come from poor families, unable to buy expensive milk squeezer. Moreover, after being blackmailed would be placed where the milk? At home there is not necessarily cooler (refrigerator), especially in the workplace such as in factories. Where there is cooling facilities for female workers and provided a special time for milking. However, if milk is squeezed not only more than one hour will cause the milk out and this causes inconvenience for the mother who was at work. So that is squeezed milk is not suitable for working mothers dikilang.
Research also shows that mothers caring for children directly intervened in the first three years of his life will get the best result. Because, at that time the mother has the opportunity to play an important role in the development of physical, cognitive, social, and social development. If so after three years, the mother can get out of work in peace, then? Not necessarily as well. Children are easily formed when they were under the age of ten years. That's when the mother's chance to instill religious values to their children who will not be gained from religious instruction in schools. Mom also had the opportunity to guide their children in school lessons.
Type of Work The Suitable For Women
Surely the first task of the woman and the greatest there is no opposition to him was mentarbiyah generation that has been prepared by God, both physical and mental. Obligatory for women to not forget this noble treatise is caused by the material or any of modernization, because no one is capable of doing this great job which will determine the future of mankind unless he is.
1. Works to serve the women's own
Obstetricians, surgeons, nurses, teachers, etc. are examples of work that really needed to serve women. School teachers is an ideal job for women. My auntie taught in elementary school only three times a week. IBHS was not until the afternoon. So my aunt a lot to spend time with their children at home. Proven success of all children to climb higher education.
2. Work can be done in the house
Work of this kind is the kind of business such as opening of child care places, where classes, sewing, catering, provides wedding, family financial consultant, novelist, etc.. Work of this type are rarely glimpsed by the women as they may not be prestigious. More prestigious when working at the office, although not necessarily higher income than is done at home. Another reason is the prestige salain many women go to school in a place that does not fit with them. Should they continue their education in fields such as child care, instead they went into electrical engineering juruskan (Electrical Engineering). Graduates are forced to work in industries that are outside the home. So if you have a daughter, sekolahkan their proper place. Teach them skills of sewing, cooking, making Kueh, business, etc..
Terms of If Women Want to Work
When she was working it must meet several requirements as follows (Prof. Dr. Al-Ibrahim Md Uqlah them (Nizam al-Usrah, 2 / 282; al-bayt al-Mar'ah Bayna Wal Mujtama ', p. 18)):
1. Needs a very urgent and should be out of work caused by these events:
• Death of husband and require the cost of living.
• Provide assistance to two mothers or fathers who are very poor excuse her husband.
• Helping businesses that require a lot of husbands effort and money.
• Have a great keistemewaan sehinggakan proficiency is required by the general public.
2. This work in accordance with the nature of a woman and ability phisiknya.
3. Closing aurat and always stay away from backbiting in the workplace.
Should be the type of work is not prohibited, it means basically the work was not forbidden and does not lead to the unlawful act such as becoming a dancer who arouse lust and worldly desires, or working in bars that serve The wine.
Male tease
Nature have become a woman to seek various ways so that his appearance was praised by others. This opportunity is open wide when they are outside the home. They will wear clothes that can increase male orgasm. Should not be mini-skirt outfit, could also covered the tight clothing. Maybe they thought enough to cover the head only, while other bodies left wrapped with tight clothing. Sometimes still split again skirt. In addition to fine dining mandatory perfume for women. The more men who smell its fragrance oil, the more proud of her appearance. Not to mention plus makeup. That's all the things that lead to slander against the men.
4. No two-pair with the male and mixed with other men.
Like to work as a maid in someone who is not married or a special secretary to a director and then together
5. Guardian or husband's permission.
If there is no permission from their husbands, do not try to work out even though urged desperate parents own the same.
6. No expense of household liabilities.
Like its obligations to her husband and her children, which is the first obligation and duty in a human.
7. The purpose and intent of working is not fun and keghairahan kerana to accumulate wealth and intention to compete solely male.
8. Stop working when it found a problem in their child's education.
An acquaintance of my wife working part-time at a school teaching Arabic. But when her son fell ill to have to leave school for a long time, the mother decided to stop working immediately. The mother saw her son fall in school lessons because a lot of lag. Expects his father to teach his son is also not possible, because his father back when the late afternoon. Alhamdulillah with the perseverance of her mother teaching her son was seven years old, her school performance increased again.
9. Work not until retirement.
It is highly recommended in order to work in a certain tempo and not until retirement. Should stop a moment the husband has the ability to bear the entire family with the good. Except if it has the expertise that is essential to the public.
Facilities for Working Women
According to Dr. Yusuf Al-Qharadawi demanded of the Islamic community is to organize all the problems of life and prepare the ingredients so that women could work, if it brings benefit for himself, his family and his community, without destroying the sense of embarrassment or conflict with the attachment with his duty to his Lord, himself, and house. And should the environment in general support to implement their obligations and obtain their rights. It could be the way women were given half the job at half the salary (three days a week) for example, as is fitting for society to give women adequate holiday in early marriages, as well as during childbirth and breastfeeding.
Among which must be disciplined is to build schools and faculties of universities exclusively for women through which they can exercise and play sports with them. And should they be given the freedom to indulge and do various activities.
Among these areas and also build its own land specifically for women employees and workers in the ministries, offices and banks, which are far from slander, etc. from a variety of diverse and actual facilities that are not counted. God who spoke the truth and He is giving instructions
